Someone’s death is nothing but life-changing for the bereaved. If the deceased has a sibling, their passing can leave a void in the life of their surviving brother and sister. It can also bring forth a plethora of emotions — from anger and resentment to guilt and profound loneliness. This is why it pays to know how to comfort a person who experiences the so-called sibling grief. From giving them time to sending sympathy gifts, here are eight tips you should remember.
Allow them to grieve. Grief is a personal process. And when someone is grieving, they’re at a point in their life when they’re dealing with many emotions. You can help a griever process all these feelings by giving them time and space of their own.
Offer a listening ear. Sibling grief tends to be overshadowed by the grief experienced by the partner, child, and parents of the deceased. By letting them know you’re there to listen to their thoughts — you’re already giving them strong support. They can take comfort in knowing that their emotions are noticed and valid and that someone is willing to take the time to hear them out.
Say the right words. Consoling a bereaved sibling isn’t just about lending a listening ear and a shoulder they can cry on. Words can also help ease a grieving heart when carefully and sincerely said. Avoid cliches that might come across as unsympathetic and insensitive when talking to the griever. For instance, “It happened for a reason,” “They’re in a better place now,” “I’ve gone through the same experience. I know you’ll be better in a few weeks.” Instead, acknowledge their loss and let them know that your thoughts are with them in this difficult time.
Share heartwarming stories. Speaking of telling the right words — you’re also welcome to share with them feel-good anecdotes that you have about their departed sibling. Sharing such stories is a great way to honor the life that the deceased had lived.
Lend a helping hand. Words can certainly be comforting. But whenever you have the opportunity, also offer practical support. Help them arrange the funeral, accommodate guests, or do some light household chores.
Give sympathy gifts. Sympathy presents are made to pay tribute to the life of the deceased. They also act as a tangible token embodying your sincere condolences for the bereaved. From wind chimes and photo frames to more keychains and candles, there are plenty of options to choose from if you’re planning to give a memorial gift to the grieving sibling.
Provide financial support. It’s no secret how funeral expenses can be too high to the point that they can be financially overwhelming to the bereaved. You can offer financial support to help unload some of the financial stress they may be having. If you can’t give a substantial amount, you can also set up an account where family and friends can send donations.
Help keep their memories alive. Apart from sending sympathy gifts and mementoes, you can also make other gestures that can help keep the departed’s memories and legacy alive. For instance, you can donate to a charitable group in their name. You can also start a tradition with the surviving sibling such as visiting a place the deceased held close to their heart yearly.
